MY HISTORY WITH DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ( Outline Of My Speech At Ccsf)

Leon Kwasi Kuntuo-Asare

POEM: A CONVERSATION WITH MY FATHER!

 

Today, I am going to share a poem I wrote and published about my late father, the poem is titled: “A conversation with my Father”.

 

“Kum Apem A. Apem Beba”

 

That is the exact Asante proverb, I said while speaking to my papa

 

translated from our Asante Twi, those words mean “Kill a thousand and a thousand more will come.”

 

Those are the exact words that our ancestors spoke when they went to war with the British Empire and won in 1823

 

So what that means to me is when I was a child and witnessed you get shot, while closing our family’s shop

 

That was in one of Detroit’s roughest spots

 

Yet you still went to work the next day

 

The only thing left for me to say, was that Asante warrior blood, is not just something that was passed down in our family DNA

 

But a code you actually live by day to day

 

As my father started to beam and smile at his proud son

 

I asked him to stay sitting with me, I will be finished in a little while

 

He said: o.k. Nana

 

Which is a word given to kings, Queens and Elders

 

But he calls me Nana, because I am named after my mama’s papa

 

I said “ you know what papa?”

 

Mama reminds me of the Asante Warrior Queen mother Yaa Asantewaa, who led the Asante Kingdom In a War Against British colonialism

 

I mean they both are strong beautiful queens who would go to war to protect their family

 

My father looked at me and smiled, giggled and kissed me on the cheek and said: Yes son I agree.

 

So why in the hell papa do you verbally demean and sometimes physically abuse mama, if she is supposed to be your queen?

 

My father knew there was nothing he could say to justify his sometimes explosive acts of violence

 

So, he said nothing and just looked at me very sad and silent!

 

 

Speech Intro:

 

As a kid like a lot of kids who grew up with an alpha-male and charismatic father in the house, I worshipped my father. To me he was a black Superman, an African Hercules, I seriously believed there was no one or nothing on earth he could not defeat if he had to.

 

I remember being next to him when he got shot in his head closing our family’s store in an extremely dangerous area of Detroit. A city he came to as an immigrant from Ghana, West Africa, to look for a better life for his family.

 

His idea of the American Dream was to open several liquor stores, all over Detroit and beyond, that we locally call “Party Stores”, that my father intended for my brother and I to inherit.

 

At one of those stores, I remember my mom walking in one day, it was after school, so my brother and I were in the store stocking shelves, when my mother walked in after her work, looking beat up and bruised like she just went 9 rounds with Mike Tyson.

 

She claimed she had gotten robbed, I believed her immediately, I had no reason not to.

 

At that time as an adolescent, I had seen another one of our family stores get burnt down to the ground, I had seen my father get shot and our family’s home get shot up after being mistaken for our drug dealing neighbor’s home. And at this time, Detroit was one of the most dangerous cities in America, if not the murder capital.

 

It would be years before I discovered my mother was not robbed and that she was beaten by my father after a hostile argument about his many affairs and financial issues. I would find out even though my father was far more verbally abusive than physically, there would be a few times in my teen years I would have to pull him off my mom. A  few times I almost came to bloody blows with the man whose blood coursed through my veins; if it was not for my mother’s interventions, there is a good chance that one of us would of killed the other one.

 

I would go on to hate my father for years until I discovered that he was suffering for years with depression and suicidal thoughts, dementia and he was also dealing with various other mental health issues.

 

The hate I had for him would soon turn into a deep sadness and for the rest of his life, until his death last year we shared an improved relationship.

 

Fast forward two decades, I get a call from a “loved one”, late in the night. Despite the fact he works in law enforcement, he calls me for advice. He tells me his wife just snapped and battered him and their daughter.

 

I tell him to call the cops. Even though he knows he should, it takes me a while to convince him, he does not want to breakup his family and he does not want it to cost his wife her job.

 

Finally after his 5 year old daughter also tells him to please call the cops on his wife and her mom; who had this point had stormed out of the house, he eventually calls the cops.

After she finally was arrested a couple dayd, it would be discovered that she had stopped taking her anti-depressants medications, which made her go crazier than a cat on catnip.

Since them his wife has been taking better care of her mental health and they are now a relatively stable family.

 

Thesis:

You should learn that domestic violence is a lot more complicated than we’ve been led to believe.

 

What:

Like the old saying goes: Love the sinner, hate the sin.”

Yes, people who commit domestic violence must be punished, but within that punishment, they must also be given the proper psychological treatment.

 

Why:

 

Too much do we as a society look to label people for life as evil and bad, without looking to see what they are going through to make them act that way.

We have to keep in mind that hurt people hurt people.

 
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

THE AGE OF AL CRACKA TERRORISM! (ARTICLE )

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BY: LEON KWASI KUNTUO-ASARE

Like the funny words spoken by the legendary comedian Chris Rock, during his 2004 tour ” Never Scared”, I ain’t scared of Al qaeda, I’m scared of Al Cracka.

What most if not all of the major American news corporations refuse to tell we the American people, is that the biggest threat to the American public, is not a bearded muslim man in a cave somewhere in the middle east, nor is it illegal immigrants or inner-city street crime committed by Miseducated and economically disenfranchised black youths. The biggest threat to a utopian American society is systematic white supremacy. According to an article published by the Atlantic.com on june 25, 2015 ” White supremacists and anti-government radicals are responsible for twice as many deaths in the U.S. as jihadists since 9/11″.

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And according to an analysis by New America: the most lethal political violence since September 11 has come in the form of attacks by white supremacists, anti-government extremists.

But no politicians, law enforcement agencies or Fox news, who rightfully labeled the Boston marathon Bomber Dzokhar Tsarnaev a terrorist, would ever do right and label a white (non-Muslim) person a terrorist for his crimes against humanity, at least not unanimously.

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Just ask Dylann Roof, who wrote a manifesto about starting a race war in America, between whites and blacks and assassinated nine African-American people, including a South Carolina senator on June, 17, 2015, yet FBI director James Comey, so far has still refused to label Dylann Roof a domestic terrorist.

So imparting, unlike what former president George “Forest Gump” Bush said, the terrorists don’t hate us for our freedom, if anything they hate us for our collective hypocrisy!

FOR ADDITIONAL INFORMATION ON WHITE SUPREMACIST TERRORISTS USE LINK :

http://www.theatlantic.com/politics/archive/2015/06/terrorism-threat/396749/

THE DOUBLE STANDARD OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE COVERAGE IN THE MAINSTREAM MEDIA! (ARTICLE )

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BY: LEON KWASI KUNTUO-ASARE

“Keep your damn hands to yourself” is a term that should viewed as law of the land in America, no matter your race, gender or sexual orientation, no one should be allowed to feel they can batter another person because of an argument or disagreement and not have to deal with repercussions. That being said what people should do is often the opposite of what people actually do.

Without a doubt domestic violence is a major issue in the United States, straight, bi, gay, Transgender, male, female, all these subgroups of the American population, have people in their group who have committed assault and battery on their loved ones, which proves that domestic violence is not a male vs. female issue, rather it’s a humanity issue, that needs to be addressed in the proper and educated manner.

Instead the major media corporations continue to omit the fact that men make up about 40% of domestic violence victims, in an article titled: “More than 40% of domestic violence victims are male, report reveals” by the Guardian.com and published on September 4, 2010 stated : “Data from home office statistical bulletins and the British crime survey show that men made up about 40% of domestic violence victims each year between 2004-5 and 2008-9”.

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SNL SPOOF ON SOLANGE ATTACK OF JAY Z.

Instead when a woman hits a man it’s a joke on Saturday night live like when Solange Knowles , the sister of R&B/pop diva Beyonce and sister-in-law to rap legend and music mogul Jay Z, decided to punch and kick her brother-in-law in a tight elevator, while she was wearing dangerously sharp high heels.

Media companies like DISNEY/ABC/ESPN for the most part simply ignored the fact that women’s WorldCup Soccer player Hope Solo has been involved in at least two cases of domestic violence in which she was the aggressor.

The media instead downplays or ignores domestic violence committed by women to focus months on the issue of violence committed by men, especially black men, even if it was in self-defense against a crazed and violent woman, e.g. the Ray rice incident when he punched his then girlfriend/now wife in the face after she pimped slap him or the FSU quarterback De’andre Johnson, who punched a woman in a bar after she reportedly yelled racial slurs at him and is on video seen punching him .

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Both male Football players so far have had their careers cut short, while Solange is more famous now after she attacked Jay Z and Hope Solo just won a WorldCup and is expected to be in the FIFA 2016 video game.

So to my fellow Americans, I think we can all agree that domestic violence is horrific, so lets just have one standard that domestic violence is wrong and the aggressor should be punished, no matter their sex, race or sexual orientation.

FOR ADDITIONAL INFORMATION USE LINK :
http://www.theguardian.com/society/2010/sep/05/men-victims-domestic-violence

WHITE SUPREMACIST TERRORIST KILLS NINE PEOPLE IN SOUTH CAROLINA CHURCH! (ARTICLE )

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BY: LEON KWASI KUNTUO-ASARE

In yet another case of white supremacist domestic terrorism, nine people were massacred at the historic Methodist Episopal Church, in South Carolina, during bible study, at around 9pm Wednesday night.

Luckily but not surprisingly for the good citizens of that area, the armed and dangerous white supremacist suspect Dylann Roof was arrested without a single bullet being fired by the police on Thursday morning.

Unfortunately we have to keep in mind this is not an isolated incident and is just another in a long list of domestic terrorism attacks inflicted against the black community, just to name a couple of the “Move bombing in Philadelphia in 1985” or the “TULSA RACE RIOT IN 1921”.

FOR ADDITIONAL INFORMATION USE LINK :

White Domestic Terrorist Guns Down Nine People During Bible Study, Feared Blacks Were ‘Taking Over Our Country’